Phubbing
It's a combination of' 'phone' and 'snubbing' – snub means to deliberately ignore someone you know.
Is social media a distraction?
Is social media a distraction?
wind someone up
say or do something deliberately in order to annoy someone
say or do something deliberately in order to annoy someone
have a connection with someone
engage emotionally
engage emotionally
interrupting conversations to check your phone has become a social norm
I do get wound up about people constantly checking their devices. Yesterday, I was in a café and two girls came in. They sat down and started chatting away – but not to each other – they were tapping away at their devices. And there was no face-to-face conversation at all!
I'm all ears. 和wind someone up 是什麼意思呢?
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Sophie
Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English. I'm Sophie…
Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English. I'm Sophie…
[pause]
Sophie
Neil? … [sound of a smartphone] Neil!
Neil? … [sound of a smartphone] Neil!
Neil
Oh, sorry! … And I'm Neil.
Oh, sorry! … And I'm Neil.
Sophie
Neil, please put down your phone. We're doing the show!
Neil, please put down your phone. We're doing the show!
Neil
Yeah, I know. Hang on a minute. I just need to tweet something and… Done!
Yeah, I know. Hang on a minute. I just need to tweet something and… Done!
Sophie
And the subject of today's show is social media and its impact on our daily lives.
And the subject of today's show is social media and its impact on our daily lives.
Neil
Hmm, well, I suppose it has had quite a big impact on mine.
Hmm, well, I suppose it has had quite a big impact on mine.
Sophie
That's all too clear. Now, perhaps we can move on to today's quiz question?
That's all too clear. Now, perhaps we can move on to today's quiz question?
Neil
Of course – I'm all ears. [sound of a smartphone] Oh, hang on, wait a second…
Of course – I'm all ears. [sound of a smartphone] Oh, hang on, wait a second…
Sophie
There's a word to describe what you're doing, you know. Answer me this: Which word describes a situation where you're talking to someone and they suddenly look down at their phone or answer it? Is it…
There's a word to describe what you're doing, you know. Answer me this: Which word describes a situation where you're talking to someone and they suddenly look down at their phone or answer it? Is it…
a) phobbing?
b) phibbing?
Or c) phubbing?
b) phibbing?
Or c) phubbing?
Neil
Well, you've got me there, Sophie! I have no idea! But I'll guess that it's c) phubbing!
Well, you've got me there, Sophie! I have no idea! But I'll guess that it's c) phubbing!
Sophie
Well, we'll find out later on in the show whether you got the answer right or not. Now, let's move on and talk about phone etiquette – etiquette means rules of polite behaviour in society or among people in a certain group.
Well, we'll find out later on in the show whether you got the answer right or not. Now, let's move on and talk about phone etiquette – etiquette means rules of polite behaviour in society or among people in a certain group.
Neil
Well… interrupting conversations to check your phone has become a social norm, hasn't it, Sophie?
Well… interrupting conversations to check your phone has become a social norm, hasn't it, Sophie?
Sophie
Social norms are the rules of behaviour considered acceptable in a group or society. I don't agree, Neil! Let's listen to Professor Sherry Turkle of Massachusetts Institute of Technology talking about social norms amongst students.
Social norms are the rules of behaviour considered acceptable in a group or society. I don't agree, Neil! Let's listen to Professor Sherry Turkle of Massachusetts Institute of Technology talking about social norms amongst students.
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Sherry Turkle, American clinical psychologist and professor of the social studies of Science and Technology at Massachusetts Institute of Technology
I interviewed hundreds of college students and what they talked about was what some of them called 'the rule of three'. And what the rule of three is which is that if you go to dinner with friends, you don't want to look down at your phone until you see that three people, let's say you're six at dinner, are looking up in the conversation. So there's a new etiquette where you don't look down unless three people are looking up kind of to keep a little conversation alive.
Sherry Turkle, American clinical psychologist and professor of the social studies of Science and Technology at Massachusetts Institute of Technology
I interviewed hundreds of college students and what they talked about was what some of them called 'the rule of three'. And what the rule of three is which is that if you go to dinner with friends, you don't want to look down at your phone until you see that three people, let's say you're six at dinner, are looking up in the conversation. So there's a new etiquette where you don't look down unless three people are looking up kind of to keep a little conversation alive.
Neil
Professor Sherry Turkle.
Professor Sherry Turkle.
Sophie
Why don't you try out the rule of three once in a while?
Why don't you try out the rule of three once in a while?
Neil
There are only two of us here, Sophie - do the math! And I'm listening to you… mmm… let me just send a text message here on my phone ... hang on…
There are only two of us here, Sophie - do the math! And I'm listening to you… mmm… let me just send a text message here on my phone ... hang on…
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Sophie
Neil… NEIL! I'm not going to carry on with the show unless you pay attention!
Neil… NEIL! I'm not going to carry on with the show unless you pay attention!
Neil
Sorry, Sophie. Actually I was just doing that to wind you up. I wasn't really using my phone… Sorry.
Sorry, Sophie. Actually I was just doing that to wind you up. I wasn't really using my phone… Sorry.
Sophie
And to wind someone up means to say or do something deliberately in order to annoy someone. Well, I do get wound up about people constantly checking their devices. Yesterday, I was in a café and two girls came in. They sat down and started chatting away – but not to each other – they were tapping away at their devices. And there was no face-to-face conversation at all!
And to wind someone up means to say or do something deliberately in order to annoy someone. Well, I do get wound up about people constantly checking their devices. Yesterday, I was in a café and two girls came in. They sat down and started chatting away – but not to each other – they were tapping away at their devices. And there was no face-to-face conversation at all!
Neil
But you can have moments of connection using your devices, you know?
But you can have moments of connection using your devices, you know?
Sophie
If you have a connection with someone you engage emotionally.
If you have a connection with someone you engage emotionally.
Neil
Exactly. I was on the train this morning and there were a couple sharing a tablet. They were looking at the screen, and talking about what they saw there. It was very intimate, and they were… well… very connected. Let's hear from Ian Sinclair, British poet and filmmaker, talking about a new generation of connected humans.
Exactly. I was on the train this morning and there were a couple sharing a tablet. They were looking at the screen, and talking about what they saw there. It was very intimate, and they were… well… very connected. Let's hear from Ian Sinclair, British poet and filmmaker, talking about a new generation of connected humans.
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Iain Sinclair, British writer, poet, and filmmaker
Physiologically we're changing, that almost the neck muscles are tipped over to look down. We're getting a new kind of human being. And I think – maybe I'm not getting it – but there is actually a different kind of intimacy emerging in which these instruments are very important.
Iain Sinclair, British writer, poet, and filmmaker
Physiologically we're changing, that almost the neck muscles are tipped over to look down. We're getting a new kind of human being. And I think – maybe I'm not getting it – but there is actually a different kind of intimacy emerging in which these instruments are very important.
Sophie
So Iain Sinclair says our physiology is changing – our bodies, our neck muscles are changing – to make it easier to look down all the time at our devices! But it isn't only muscles that might change as a result of our techie habits – it's the way we interact – or engage with each other too. Ian Sinclair talks about a different kind of intimacy emerging – what does he mean, Neil?
So Iain Sinclair says our physiology is changing – our bodies, our neck muscles are changing – to make it easier to look down all the time at our devices! But it isn't only muscles that might change as a result of our techie habits – it's the way we interact – or engage with each other too. Ian Sinclair talks about a different kind of intimacy emerging – what does he mean, Neil?
Neil
Our intimacy – or closeness – with other people is somehow connected up with our devices. They've become part of us. And I expect some day devices will literally be part of us – an implant in our necks or something.
Our intimacy – or closeness – with other people is somehow connected up with our devices. They've become part of us. And I expect some day devices will literally be part of us – an implant in our necks or something.
Sophie
What a horrible thought!
What a horrible thought!
Neil
Let's have the quiz question again Sophie to take your mind off it.
Let's have the quiz question again Sophie to take your mind off it.
Sophie
OK. I asked: Which word describes a situation where you're talking to someone and they suddenly look down at their phone or answer it? Is it…a) phobbing? b) phibbing? Or c) phubbing?
OK. I asked: Which word describes a situation where you're talking to someone and they suddenly look down at their phone or answer it? Is it…a) phobbing? b) phibbing? Or c) phubbing?
Neil
And I said c) phubbing.
And I said c) phubbing.
Sophie
You were right, Neil! Well done! It's a combination of' 'phone' and 'snubbing' – snub means to deliberately ignore someone you know. New words formed by putting together parts of existing words are known as blends or portmanteau words. And 'phubbing' is starting to appear in some online dictionaries. Now can we hear the words we learned today?
You were right, Neil! Well done! It's a combination of' 'phone' and 'snubbing' – snub means to deliberately ignore someone you know. New words formed by putting together parts of existing words are known as blends or portmanteau words. And 'phubbing' is starting to appear in some online dictionaries. Now can we hear the words we learned today?
[Silence, as Neil is concentrated
on his phone]
Sophie
Neil? OK! I'll say the words myself:
etiquette
wind someone up
have a connection with someone
physiology
interact
intimacy
snub
Neil? OK! I'll say the words myself:
etiquette
wind someone up
have a connection with someone
physiology
interact
intimacy
snub
Sophie
Well, that's the end of today's 6 Minute English. Don't forget to connect with us again soon! Come on Neil, connect with us! Come on!
Well, that's the end of today's 6 Minute English. Don't forget to connect with us again soon! Come on Neil, connect with us! Come on!
Neil
Oh, yeah, hang on, just got to…
Oh, yeah, hang on, just got to…
Sophie
Goodbye!
Goodbye!
Neil
Hang on… I'll be with you in a second… Yes. OK. Bye!
Hang on… I'll be with you in a second… Yes. OK. Bye!